Refugees – unedited thoughts

Refugees.
They used to be a foreign concept, something we heard of but never really experienced.
We used to say things like ‘I can’t imagine what that must be like’ or ‘in times like those the people just have to make some sacrifices’.
And now that it’s us, that we are the people who are affected by the refugees, we seem to think different about it.

It makes me so mad!
Why would we shut people in need out?
Why would we refuse to offer help to people who are in danger of losing their lives?
The answer is clear: we’re afraid.
Afraid of loosing our lives.
Afraid we are putting ourselves in danger.
But guess what, so are they!
And their fear is much more real than ours because they know with a heart-wrenching certainty that they will get hurt unless they leave.
So they risk crossing an ocean on a tiny blown-up boat without any food, a journey that none of us would ever take because the risks are too high, yet this is their better option!

I get that you are scared.
I am too.
The attacks in Paris were uncomfortably close to home for me.
But I do not think that that is a reason to stop helping people.
If we choose fear over love, there is no way we will come out of this well.
If we choose fear over love, chances are Isis has already won.

and if not, He is still good

2 Monate! Wow! Einerseits verging die Zeit schnell, andererseits fühlt es sich wie eine kleine Ewigkeit an das ich in interns bin. Diesen Monat habe ich ein ziemliches Auf und Ab erlebt.
Ich hatte Tage die so gut waren und zwei Wochen die eher nicht so gut waren.
Ich war krank und erschöpft und hatte das Gefühl ich schaffe das alles nicht.
Es ist seltsam das zu teilen, wieviel teilt man mit der ganzen Welt? Zu welchem Grad gibt man diesen Teil von sich her?
Auch wenn ich nicht alles hier veröffentlichen würde will ich doch ehrlich sein.
Und als jahrelange Tagebuch-schreiberin bin ich es gewöhnt meine Gefühle und Gedanken im Wortfluss auszuschütten, weshalb ich Blogposts manchmal nochmal schreibe um nicht mein ganzes Herz online auszuschütten 😉
Hier also die zusammengefasste Version (und der Punkt hinter der ganzen Sache):
Ich habe mir selber zu viel Druck gemacht und bin auf meinen eigenen Kraftreserven gefahren.
Jetzt habe ich am eigenen Leib erfahren was es heisst seine Kraft aus Gott zu schöpfen anstatt nur aus sich selbst.

2 months! Wow! On the one hand time went by fast, on the other hand it feels like I have been in interns for a little eternity.
This month I have experienced a pretty up and down ride.
I had good days and two weeks that were rather bad.
I was sick and exhausted and simply felt like I wasn’t able to do it all.
It’s strange to share that, how much do you share with the world? To what degree do you give this part of yourself?
But while I want to protect my heart I want to be honest.
And as a longtime diary-writer I am used to expressing my feelings and thoughts in the flow of writing, which is why I sometimes write a blogpost again to not share my whole heart online 😉
So here’s the summed up version (and the point behind this all):
I put too much pressure on myself and went off of my own strength.
Now I have experienced myself what it means to take your strength out of God as opposed to yourself.

An einem Punkt habe ich es realisiert: Gott hat mich nicht hierhin gebracht um mich jetzt scheitern zu lassen.
Das heißt das ich das hier durchziehe.
Wenn es hart ist. Wenn es ungemütlich wird.
Wenn ich nicht aufstehen will weil ich eine Pause von Leuten will.
Genau dann heißt es das ich trotzdem aufstehe und hingehe, auch wenn hingehen bedeutet jemandem zu sagen das ich einen schlechten Tag habe.

At one point it hit me: God didn’t bring me here to let me fail.
That means that I am going through with this.
When it gets hard.
When it gets uncomfortable.
When I don’t want to get up because I want a break from people.
Exactly then is when it means that I go nonetheless, even when going means telling someone I’m having a bad day.

Ich habe noch etwas realisiert:
Ich muss mich investieren.
Was ich damit meine ist das ich merke das ich mich teilweise zurückhalte, da ich nicht weiß was nächstes Jahr sein wird.
Jeh mehr ich mich investiere desto schwieriger wird der Abschied werden.
So habe ich in den letzten Monaten in Deutschland gedacht und so denke ich jetzt auch.
Aber genau wie in Deutschland bin ich zu dem Schluss gekommen dass das keine Art ist zu leben.
Sich nie zu 100% zu investieren aus der Angst zu leiden wenn es endet.
Also investiere ich mich.
Gebe alles her.
Und es ist angsteinflössend aber es ist gleichzeitig so gut!
Denn wie könnte man jeh alles gewinnen wenn man nicht alles setzt?

I realized something else:
I have to invest myself.
What I mean by that is that I partially hold myself back, because I don’t know where I’ll be next year.
The more I invest myself the harder the goodbye will be.
That’s what I thought in the last months in Germany and that’s what I’m thinking now.
But, just like in Germany, I came to the conclusion that that is no way to live.
To never invest yourself 100% out of the fear that you will suffer when it ends.
So I am investing myself.
Give everything.
And it is scary but at the same time it’s so good!
Because how could you ever win it all unless you bet it all?

Jetzt zu etwas das nicht so tiefgehend ist und mich riesig freut!!!
Meine Mama kommt zu Besuch!!!
Es bedeutet mir so viel die Möglichkeit zu haben ihr alles zu zeigen und ihr diesen Teil meines Lebens vorzustellen!
Jesus ist so gut!

Now to something that isn’t so deep but makes me so incredibly happy!!!
My Mama is coming to visit!!!
It means so much to me to have the opportunity to show her everything and introduce her to this part of my life.
Jesus is so good!

Ihr seht also, ich lebe und liebe es hier trotz allem 😉 Mit allen Grüßen dieser Welt! 

So you can see I’m alive and loving it here no matter what 😉 With all the greetings in the world!

Paula

1 month in : September

hey everybody! Hallo Alle zusammen!

I thought I would try out something different to write in both languages, in the hope that it will make the process of publishing a blog-post quicker.

Ich dachte ich probiere mal eine andere Methode in beiden Sprachen zu schreiben aus, in der Hoffnung das es das veröffentlichen eines Blog-Posts schneller macht.

This is a recap of my first month in interns!

Das hier ist eine Zusammenfassung von meinem ersten Monat in interns!

To be honest, I cannot believe it has only been a month! So much has changed and it feels like I have known these people, my fellow interns, for longer than that.

Um ehrlich zu sein kann ich gar nicht glauben das ich erst einen Monat hier bin. Es hat sich so viel verändert und es fühlt sich an als würde ich diese Leute, die anderen interns, schon länger kennen.

I am seeing change in myself, but also in the others, and I count all of them as close friends already. It’s a crazy thought that we will continue to change and grow closer in relationship to each other, since change and new friendships went so far in these first 5 weeks.

Ich sehe jetzt schon Veränderung in mir , aber auch den Anderen, und ich zähle sie alle schon zu meinem engen Freundeskreis. Es ist verrückt darüber nachzudenken wie sehr wir uns weiterhin verändern werden und enger zusammen wachsen werden, da Veränderung und neue Freundschaften in den ersten fünf Wochen schon so weit gekommen sind. 

I did have some down days this month, which I would say is normal, where I just missed my home and, of course, my family. But I feel so incredibly blessed and fortunate to be able to do this and get to do life with these people! 

Ich hatte ein paar nicht so gute Tage in diesem Monat, was ich als normal empfinde, an denen ich zuhause und natürlich meine Familie vermisst habe. Aber ich fühle mich so unglaublich gesegnet und schätze mich glücklich in der Lage zu sein das hier zu machen und mein Leben mit diesen Menschen zu leben.

While it may sound like it’s all roses and butterflies over here, it’s not. Let me tell you, these six months of having no obligations really wrecked me. I love having something to do, but responsibilities mean time commitment and I just really have to get my priorities straight. 

Obwohl es sich vielleicht anhört als wäre alles hier Rosen und Schmetterlinge, so ist es nicht. Lasst es euch gesagt sein, die sechs Monate in denen ich keine Verpflichtungen hatte haben mich zerstört. Ich liebe es etwas zu tun zu haben, aber Verpflichtungen bedeuten zeitliche Gebundenheit und ich muss lernen meine Prioritäten gerade zu setzen.

All in all I am being strechted and while it may not always be comfortable, it is really good.

Alles in allem werde ich herausgefordert und obwohl das nicht immer angenehm ist ist es sehr gut.

The other interns laugh about my new obsession with snapchat, but there’s a reason why I whip out my phone to take pictures and videos of my day and it’s why I sit down and take time to write this blog: I know this year will be one of the best of my life and I would hate to waste it because I’m not intentional enough. I want to capture it & doing that allows me to reflect on how I spent my time.

Die anderen interns lachen über meine neue Sucht nach Snapchat, aber es gibt einen Grund wieso ich mein Handy zücke um Fotos und Videos von meinem Tag zu machen und es ist auch wieso ich mir Zeit nehme diesen Blog zu schreiben: ich weiß das dieses Jahr eines der besten meines Lebens werden wird und es wäre zu schade wenn ich es verschwenden würde weil ich nicht genug Intention habe. Ich möchte es festhalten & das zu tun erlaubt mir zu reflektieren wie ich meine Zeit verbringe.

Afterall you’re only 18 once 😉 

Man ist immerhin nur einmal 18 😉 

My first link is over and while I am a little sad to not spent as much time with my kidsmin crew anymore, I am very excited for Langley Rev!

Mein erster link (Bereich in dem man mitarbeitet) ist vorbei und obwohl ich etwas traurig bin nicht mehr soviel Zeit mit meiner kidsmin (Kinderdienst) crew zu verbringen freue ich mich sehr auf Langley Rev (die Jugend in Langley!)

This month we also got to know who our mentor is and what missions team we are on! 

In diesem Monat haben wir auch herausgefunden wer unser Mentor ist und in welchem Missions Team wir sind! 

I am looking forward to what more October will bring! So far we celebrated Thanksgiving and soon my missions team will go on a local missions trip to Vancouver Island! 

Ich freue mich zu sehen was Oktober bringen wird, bis jetzt haben wir Thanksgiving gefeiert und bald wird mein Missions Team auf einen lokalen Missionseinsatz nach Vancouver Island fahren! 

I am thankful for all of this!

Ich bin dankbar für all das hier!


Paula

new beginnings

A lot of new things have been happening lately!

First of all I turned 18, which officially makes me an adult in Germany, which I am still in awe of!
We had a wonderful, big party, with almost everyone I loved, it was the perfect day!
I feel very very lucky and blessed to have all of these people in my life, loving on me and showering me with time, affection and generosity!
Secondly, I moved!!
As many of you may know, I am doing a program within christian life assembly church that is called ‘revolution interns’ and therefore I left Germany again.
I’m in Canada again and my heart is happy happy happy.
While this move to Canada is just temporarily I am moved out of my home in Germany.
Meaning even though most of my stuff is still there, I won’t live there longterm anymore.
So that is a big big change and feels weird to leave behind but it’s also super exciting to move towards bigger adventures!
Canada is definitely one of them and it is a nice transition to move out temporarily at first, I’m in a new environment anyways so it doesn’t feel to shocking to have left home.
Plus, Canada does feel like coming back to something to me, since I know quite a few places around here and connect many memories with them.

It’s crazy to be back, it’s exciting and scary and new,because I’m in a new city, with new people doing a new thing.

But to be real with you, I’m loving it.
Of course I still have to settle in and get to know everybody better but I love it simply because it is what God called me to do.
It’s not that easy in the reality of it, but it’s something I want to start doing more and more in my life: choosing joy.
It’s one thing to feel joy, it’s another one to choose joy.
Right now it is amazing. I am super excited for this semester to start and to really get going and get deeper with Jesus and the other interns.
But I know that this year will be the hardest yet most rewarded year of my life because God will do so much and work in mighty ways in us and through us.
So because of that I choose joy.
I choose to embrace this new beginning and welcome the changes with open arms instead of crying over the things left behind.
I choose to look ahead with excitement and expect good things to happen instead of fearing the unkown.
I choose to believe that God has good plans for me in my future (Jeremiah 29:11, my favourite verse).

I’m the last person to say that this will be an easy thing to do, but I’m not in it by myself.
Just the first two days of class have shown me that this will be a busy year for me and I will need to be disciplined if I want to do it well.
But like I said, I’m not in it by myself.
Even though I hardly know the people who are now my interns family, I know that they will grow so close to my heart and that I won’t be able to imagine life without them in just a few months.

What a strange thing that is, to know you will love someone without really knowing them yet,
It is quite a beautiful thing too though, since even when we don’t know someone, we know that Christ loves them.
So for me to say that I will love them is a little bit of saying that I will grow more like Christ this year, which I really want to do!

Signing up for interns I knew I would meet people who would become my family.

Here they are:

Yeah, we’re all still getting the hang of each other.
But they are my crew now.
So I will do my best to love them accordingly.

This is my new beginning, right here, right now.
I’m super excited to see where God will take all of us!

With much love, Paula
In letzter Zeit sind viele neue Sachen passiert!

Erstens bin ich 18 geworden, das macht mich in Deutschland offiziell zu einem Erwachsenen, und das wiederum versetzt mich immer noch ins Staunen!
Wir hatten eine wunderbare, große Party, mit fast allen Menschen die ich liebe, es war der perfekte Tag!
Ich fühle mich sehr sehr gesegnet alle diese Menschen in meinem Leben zu haben, die mich mit Liebe, Zeit und Großzügigkeit überschütten!

Zweitens, ich bin umgezogen!!
Wie viele von euch wissen nehme ich an einem Programm der christian life assembly church teil, dem revolution interns Programm, deshalb habe ich Deutschland wieder einmal verlassen.
Ich bin wieder in Kanada und das macht mein Herz unglaublich glücklich!
Obwohl mein Umzug nach Kanada nur vorübergehend ist, bin ich trotzdem aus meinem Zuhause in Deutschland ausgezogen.
Das bedeutet, dass obwohl die meisten meiner Sachen noch da sind, ich nicht mehr langfristig dort wohnen werde.
Das ist eine große Veränderung und es fühlt sich komisch an, diesen Abschnitt hinter mir zu lassen, aber es ist unglaublich aufregend zu neuen Abenteuern aufzubrechen!
Kanada ist definitiv eins davon und es ist ein angenehmer Übergang erstmal vorübergehend auszuziehen, ich bin sowieso in einer neuen Umgebung, da ist es nicht so seltsam das ich mein Zuhause verlassen habe.
Außerdem fühlt sich Kanada mehr wie eine Wiederkehr an, da ich viele Orte hier schon kenne und Erinnerungen mit ihnen verbinde.

Es ist verrückt wieder hier zu sein, es ist aufregend und angstauslösend und neu, weil ich in einer neuen Stadt mit neuen Leuten bin und eine neue Sache mache.

Aber um ehrlich mit euch zu sein, ich liebe es!
Natürlich muss ich mich noch einleben und alle besser kennen lernen, aber ich liebe es schon alleine deshalb, weil es das ist wozu Gott mich berufen hat.

In der Umsetzung ist das natürlich nicht so einfach, aber es ist etwas was ich mehr machen möchte: mich für Freude entscheiden. Es ist eine Sache sich zu freuen, es ist eine ganz andere sich bewusst für Freude zu entscheiden.

Jetzt gerade ist es wunderbar! Ich bin so aufgeregt, weil dieses Semester angefangen hat und wirklich loszulegen und eine tiefere Beziehung zu Gott und den anderen Interns aufzubauen. Aber ich weiß, dass dieses Jahr das schwierigste und das wertvollste Jahr meines Lebens werden wird, weil Gott so viel tun wird und in großer Weise in uns und durch uns wirken wird.
Deshalb entscheide ich mich für Freude.
Ich entscheide mich die Veränderung mit offenen Armen anzunehmen anstatt den Sachen die ich hinter mir lassen musste hinterher zu weinen.
Ich entscheide mich mit Vorfreude auf das zu schauen was kommt und keine Angst vor dem Unbekannten zu haben.
Ich entscheide mich, zu glauben das Gott gute Pläne für meine Zukunft hat (Jeremiah 29:11, mein Lieblingsvers).

Ich bin die letzte Person die sagen würde, dass es einfach werden wird.
Aber ich bin ja nicht alleine.
Alleine die ersten zwei Unterrichtstage haben mir gezeigt, dass das dieses Jahr eins sein wird in dem ich viel beschäftigt bin und mich disziplinieren muss um es gut zu machen.
Aber wie gesagt, ich bin ja nicht alleine.
Obwohl ich die Leute, die jetzt meine interns Familie sind, noch nicht so gut kenne, weiß ich doch das ich mir in ein paar Monaten ein Leben ohne sie nicht mehr vorstellen werden kann.

Was für eine seltsame Sache es ist, zu wissen das man Leute lieben wird, die man noch gar nicht richtig kennt.
Es ist auch eine wunderschöne Sache, denn auch wenn wir jemanden nicht kennen, wissen wir doch das Jesus ihn/ sie liebt.

Als ich mich für interns angemeldet habe wusste ich, dass ich Leute kennen lernen würde die meine Familie werden würden.

Hier sind sie:

Ja, wir gewöhnen uns noch alle aneinander.
Aber das hier ist jetzt meine Crew.
Also werde ich mein Bestes geben sie angemessen zu lieben.

Das hier ist mein Neuanfang, genau hier, genau jetzt.
Ich bin super gespannt wohin Gott uns alle führen wird!

Mit ganz viel Liebe,
Paula

changes on my blog

Hello again 🙂

Today I wanted to address some changes on here, or rather some plans I have for my little blog!

  1. content: While I looove the blog posts I have been doing, I call them ‘thinking out loud’ since it is just what I wonder about or want to process in written words, I want my blog to have a little bit more concistency in really giving insight and hold memories about my life as I live it.
    I have been a diary writer for quite some time now so is on my heart to capture my life in written word anyway, therefore I am looking forward to persevering my experiences on here.
  2. amount: So far my blog posts have just been what came to my mind when it came to my mind. Now I want to make it a regular thing, either monthly or maybe every two weeks to update a little on my life as I embark on my journey to bible college.
  3. language: Since I am a lover of the english language I have kept my blog posts purely english, until now….
    To make it easier for my fellow germans to follow my updates about life in Canada I will go bilingual and post blog posts in german and english from now on. That will make each post longer, but it will be the same post twice, just in two different languages 😉
  4. design: I really want to get a new photo for my blog, one that doesn’t show me 3 years ago.
    So I hope to get one I want to/can use for the header soon and maybe play with some more colour as well.
    We shall see.

    Now this was really random I guess & it’s more for me than for the people reading but it’s good to put things you want to accomplish out there, so that others can keep you accountable!

    I’m so excited to start this journey of being 18/ moving countries soon!

    – Paula

the waiting game

I have been wanting to write this post for a while now.
Only I never quite knew what to say or rather how to put into words what I wanted to express.
For a long time I was waiting.
I would think ‘once I hit this milestone, that is when my life will truly start’.
Lately this milestone was graduation & I think I am not alone in having set this milestone as the beginning of a new era.
Afterall, the first real era in my life ended there and then, at graduation day.
To catch you up on the german school system a little, the graduates only have classes until Easter and after they write their final exams they have freetime until the results and ceremonies follow in June.
After that there is another period of freetime because most programs start in late August to early September.
So after all of this waiting, the endless hours spent inside a school you only appriciate once you leave it, the nerves wrecked over studying for days and days before final exams and the sleepless nights followed by wrenched guts the morning of the actual exam are only followed by waiting.

You kind of get trapped inside this bubble of finally having freetime again, yet hovering around, your whole body cringed with anticipation of the results to come.
Once the results are there, the certificate is handed out, the photos are taken and the champagne is toasted, you take a deep breath and you get ready for the next big thing: prom!

Hair gets plugged, washed and styled.
Skin is washed and slathered with moisturizer and make-up.
You’ve practiced to walk in your enormous high-heels.
You’ve got all the tools it takes to wear that dress.
And after that final night, it’s all just gone.

All the waiting, all the anticipation, the moment you have waited for.
Did it change you?
Has it made the impact you thought it would?

Well let me just say that this season has taught me a lot.
It feels surreal to be done with school, to not return now that the summer is slowly coming to an end, but to endeavour to start a new era in your life just as well as you have hoped.
It feels surreal to leave so many memories behind and to let go of some things you thought you’d carry around with you forever.
It feels especially surreal to talk to your friends about their new day-to-day tasks and the new people they meet there, when your day-to-day task for the past 8 years were always round-about the same and the people you met were so familiar to you they carried a strange sense of belonging with them.

I can say that God has really been there, in my waiting, slowly but surely revealing himself to me more and more.
He has done so much over the past 4 years of my life and it’s odd to see it all come together now.
Blessing after blessing has been poured out onto me, even if some of them were blessings in disguise.
I am learning to live in the moment, because the waiting really didn’t stop.
It’s a continuing companion that I sense won’t ever leave my side.
Yet I am comforted that all of these moments, even the one I spent typing these words, are moments I have once awaited.
They are to be lived, not to be wasted with longing for the next one.

The waiting game is almost over, a new start is in close sight, but for now I am lingering in the moment and it is the strangest, most beautiful thing.
Some people say the time after graduation has been the best time of their lives.
It’s a time of finding yourself, of leaving the walls that have been home and seeing who you are outside of them.

There has been laughter, smiles and tears.
If I could do it all over again, I would.
But I must move forward, from moment to moment, taking each as it comes and simply enjoy.

FamiliePatchwork

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There is no ‘one size fits all’ in life

Have you ever tried on ‘one size fits all’ clothing?
There is a buzzfeed video, where woman of different shapes and sizes try on these pieces of clothing.
Now it may be clear that the same piece of clothing will not fit different people the same, but is it clear that the same applies to life?
I have come to the realization that I look to the lives of others a lot to see wether or not something is right for my life.
Should I or is this unacceptable?
Do I dare to or do I need to?
It is the balance between the things you want to do and the things you feel you should or should not do.
And while the thought of not relying on the experiences of others and their choices terrifies me – How will I survive if all I have is myself and my own experiences? I will have to try everything out myself! What if I stumble or even fall? – the relevation that there is no ‘standard life package’ that applies to everyone has liberated me.
Yes, there are goals a lot of people share, yet life is not found in the achievement of these things, but rather in the midst of them.
Life is about more than the amount of time it takes you to reach these goals and the achievement of them can look very different to each and everyone of us.

Most people stay in one place or at least area for most or their lives.
Yet this does not mean that the only acceptable way to go is the one of staying and it does not mean that happiness can only be found in this.
It also does not mean that you have to break out of this to find happiness, it just means that nothing binds you to it.

It is terrifying, the thought that happiness means something different to all of us and that it can be found in many shapes and ways.
“How will you ever find it?”, you may ask.
But the things that terrify me the most are always the ones which turn out to be worth the most in the end.
And would it not be more terrifying if happiness could only be found through one way of living?

What am I even doing?

Lately I feel very unproductive.
I used to be very comfortable in my own little world, going about my day and taking a lot of time to myself before the stress of studying truly starts.
But lately I am not content with relaxing anymore.
I am so done.
Not because there is nothing I could do, but rather because there is simply nothing to do that I truly desire to do.
My hands itch to go out there and to truly move mountains.
I am well aware that this is the phase every teenager is said to have, the phase where they think they can change the world but are only smiled upon by all the adults, because they know it will pass and they will settle for a life without many adventures.
Yet I want to get out there.
Want to seek the people who can’t afford to relax.
Who have no place to be alone.
People who have to fight every day to survive and have little chances of making their life better.
My hands itch to get out of this protected shell and get to work.
This world of ours is beautiful and rich in many ways, but it is unfinished.
It has many, many broken parts that need to be fixed.
And I know that I can’t do that.
I don’t hold myself to the expectation of saving the world and ending poverty and war everywhere.
I hold myself to the expectation that I have knowledge of what God can do and that I can bring that light to people who live in the dark.
If you had told me my deepest desire would be to go and literally get my hands dirty with work when I was a little girl you would have likely frightened me quite a bit.
It has taken time to bring out this desire and Jesus to give me the bravery to put myself out there.
Do you know the people who seperate themselves from ordinary life?
The ones who share pictures of themselves building houses in Guatemala, digging wells in Africa or feeding orphans in India.
Do you remember thinking how amazing that is and how you could never do that?
I used to!
And now I long to do exactly that.
And I truly hope that I somehow get the opportunity to!
I don’t have to go to a foreign country to do that.
All I need is a place where people need some love and light and then,
well then I get to work.

Body Image

Body Image

I know, I know, there have been many many posts and campaigns about body image and by now you probably all know that you should love your body and not pressure yourself too much, so why read another post?
Well if you’re reading this then probably because you still don’t quite buy it.
And I have to admit I didn’t and am just starting to now.

It is challenging to write an article about something that is so public yet so undone.
Let me start by making some points that I think are missing in nowadays body-image.

1) Your body is not an object.
And it drives me wild that we treat it as though it is.
We treat our bodies as though they are completely seperate from us, simply a tool to get us places and live life as best as possible.
As a burden we have to carry and a problem we have to deal with.
Yet your body is nothing like that!
Your body is an essential part of who you are and it cannot be objectified because it belongs to you.
Every time we judge someones body, we objectify that person because truly we would never tell them face to face that their hips should be a little wider and if their toes were only a bit less curved they had it all.
Your body is unique and a part of who you are.
It tells people about you and even about your life.
It holds a history nothing else in your life can or will.

2) That is to say, your body does not define you.
You might have saggy arms.
People might notice it.
So what?
The world does not stop spinning, people will not stop being friends with you (and if they are then you deserve better friends) and you will never remember an event and think back to your saggy arms.
But, you can likely change your saggy arms and it might make you feel more comfortable in your own skin so if you want to do something about it, do it.
Just know that it won’t turn your world upside down or give you a new found outlook on life.
You’ll have slim arms and that’s that.

3) Your ‘perfect’ body is not someone elses ‘perfect’ body.
There is no perfect body.
And you might have an image in your head of what that looks like but someone else has an entirely different picture in their head.
It is senseless to try to achieve this image because your body has a certain shape to it and you can go with it and be healthy and make your body feel great or you can try to achieve something unrealistic and make yourself feel bad in the process.

4) Skinny woman are not mocking you.
They are not trying to make you feel bad by being skinny and they don’t look at you as less attractive or less capable of being beautiful (it is not a skill, but a natural capability everyone has).
As said many times, everyone has a different natural body shape and should embrace it freely and proudly!
I know a bunch of skinny girls who would love to have a curvier body even though curvy girls would consider their bodies to be ‘perfect’.
It’s not about beauty, it’s something deeper!
I think society has taught us that we are not right.
So we adapted to the thought of having to change so much that we are blind to the things we already have inside of us.

5) Societys image of a beautiful body will change.
It used to be curvy woman, now it is skinny woman.
It will likely change again and again and drive woman insane in the process.
Do we really want to leave the next generation with the burden of always feeling like there is something wrong about their bodies?
Don’t we want our mothers, sisters and daughters to feel like they can be joyful about the body the have instead of longing for a different one?
Can’t we set a new standard to proclaims beauty to be found in each and any body, no matter how it is shaped?

Overall it is important to be healthy, for YOU, noone else!

Big mental hug!

Paula

It’s okay to be kind

Looking at the title you might be a little confused as to what this is about.
It’s okay to be kind.
You might even consider it a necessity.
And it is!
We aren’t as kind anymore, especially the internet, with it’s endless possibilities to remain anonymous, makes it easy for us to be the exact opposite of kindness.
In my opinion it is not simply anger or past hurt that makes us mean and unfriendly.
I think that a big part of us being mean is our fear to be vulnerable.
There is a big trend to use irony and sarcasm and it has become very popular to not say what you mean.
I am guilty of that as well and I have to say that it is a lot of fun to exchange some irony with my friends.
But irony can be sharper than you think and confuse people about your intentions or even your thoughts on things.
It might be ovious to you what you actually mean and what you just say to be funny or deliver a good comeback, but others can’t look in your head.

Now to my actual point: kindness makes vulnerable.
It truly does, because then everyone knows what you actually mean.
There is no hiding behind ‘just kidding’ or ‘that was totally irony’.
You say your actual opinion and someone can comment on it and actually criticize you.
I know, it’s scary.
And it might seem like you will be ‘clingy’ or ‘too much’, but trust me, an honest “I like you” or “you are really nice” or even just a smile will make the other person happy.

It is not considered good to care anymore, we are all independent and strong and don’t need anyone, except we do.
We do need others.
We do need help from time to time.
And we do need some nice words, not just that sarcastic “you stink” as a proof of friendship 😉

So I encourage you to be kind!
Take the leap and open yourself up a little, it’ll be worth it!